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The World All Over is Mukier Than Before


The World All Over is Mukier Than Before
By Kanayalal Raina
Should we be taken aback by a recent report about a father-in-law murdering his daughter-in-law in Canada? Or earlier a father killing the daughter. Should we be surprised by another such event with the difference that a young person killed a girl who resisted his advances? This is not the first time that we have come across these occurrences. There is no dearth of spoilt young men either. Not too long ago, five armed men barged into the house of 22-week pregnant Sunitaand her lover Jasbir Singh, strangling them to death. Moments later, the couple's half-stripped bodies stood displayed at the entrance to Sunita's paternal home in Karnal (India), her father winning applause from the community for having restored the family's honour. The day was May 16, 2008. Recently a swami from south India was caught on camera in what the media calls a 'compromising position' with a couple of women. There was a public uproar and he has since been arrested. The swami, in his early thirties, would have gotten away with what is perhaps the result of a hormonal surge had he not vowed to be, well, a swami. Literally, a swami is someone who is a 'master of his senses'. Popular culture tends to look up to a saint or swami as some kind of divine entity. What does cause distress is that these incidents have taken place in the world over and developed nations that have been known for a healthy social fabric in the past. Something has gone tragically wrong in recent decades. 

The world all over is murkier than before. We have been exposed to instances of patricide not very long ago. At times it appears as if nobody is safe in his or her surroundings. Girls especially are the victims of lust and passion of the lecherous. In our churches there have been cases even young children of their being trapped by preachers, of all persons. 
Society is made of relationships, which are maintained through the application of ethical and moral codes. Often, we hear an outcry for enforcing "moral order" or for returning to "old-fashioned values''. Such talks of morality are essentially driven from one or the other institutionalised religious teaching. For example, one may come across an impassioned plea to stress on the moral values based on Christian belief. But then, is morality of Christians different from that of theHindusMuslims and Buddhists? If yes, then there can never be peace in the world. 
Sexual trafficking of women, girls and children is a key area of concern in particular. The UNICEF (United Nations Children's Fund) has estimated that 1000 to 1500 Guatemalan (belonging to Guatemala, a country in North America) are trafficked each year for adoption by couples in North America and Europe; girls as young as 13 (mainly from Asia and Eastern Europe) are trafficked as "mail-order brides" (women who publish their intent to marry someone from another, usually more financially developed, country); large numbers of children are being trafficked in West and Central Africa, mainly for domestic work but also for sexual exploitation and to work in shops or on farms --- nearly 90 per cent of these trafficked domestic workers are girls; children from Togo, Mali, Burkina Fasoand Ghana are trafficked to Nigeria, Ivory Coast, Cameroon and Gabon --- they are trafficked both in and out of Benin and Nigeria (some of them are sent as far away as the Middle East and Europe). 
Don't we feel sick after learning all this? It is an exploitative social order. Our society is suffering from other ills too. Generally there is lack of trust. The majority of us mean no even when we say yes. White-collar criminals (cheats living behind an aura of respectability and high social status) thrive. "You scratch my back and I will scratch yours" is the order of the day. So is the motto of the survival of the fittest. One who is equipped with money regardless of its source is considered the "fittest." It does not matter whether he is downright corrupt and deceitful. 
In the world of Buddha and Gandhi all this should sound amazing. Morality is an illusion in present age. Politics is bereft of ideologies. It has become an instrument of grabbing and staying in power. We fiddle with the public money as we tend to think that it does not appear to belong to anybody. Corporate wars are ruthless more focussed on profitability than on improving products and services. The films like Corporate, SarkarLaaga Chunari Mein Daag and Fashion, among others, bring into sharp focus the direction in which we are heading. Everything comes with a price. Everyone wants to swim with the current. A few who dare go against the flow are dubbed as cynics. Why should we blame individuals alone? Even the nations have been caught selling not only narcotics but also nuclear technologies. Will this ever change for the better? Definitely it will, if all of us stand up and say enough is enough.

A TV in your home

By Kanayalal Raina

What is the usual scene in most of our homes in the evening? The majority of family members sit around television watching one family soap opera after the other. We tend to go along with the emotions of tear, joy, anger and anxiety as if in real life. Have we ever paused for a while to consider its total effect on our lifestyle? Don't we feel that we have allowed ourselves to be virtually paralysed? We end up wasting a lot of our time which we could have fruitfully used for adding to our knowledge through books or inquiring about each other's welfare for our collective benefit. An American science fiction writer is possibly close to echoing our feelings: "The television, that insidious beast, that Medusa which freezes a billion people to stone every night, staring fixedly, that Siren which called and sang and promised so much and gave, after all, so little" (Medusa is a Greek mythological character grazing directly upon whom would turn onlookers to stone. Siren too is from Greek mythology whose enchanting music and voices lured sailors only to hit their ships against rocks). Of course, TV's ill-effects on children have for long been a matter of intense debate. Many share the view that TV has changed a child from an irresistible force to an immovable object. It affects their upbringing. They don't like to watch the same show that their old relatives enjoy. Several elderly persons share their trauma over finding their favourite programmes being suddenly changed in the midst of serious watching. This can be very hurting. Does anyone care? Does this not amount to the triumph of machine over people? The story can be the same whether a house has just one TV or two or more. Experts have drawn certain conclusions which we feel should be shared with larger audience. Sitting in front of TV for long hours can lead to (a) obesity; (b) decrease in the quality of food; (c) increase in consumption of cigarettes and liquor; (d) craving for a make-believe world far from the ground realities; (e) withdrawal from social life; (f) consequently, increasing isolation; and , (g) aggression that is often misplaced. American comedian Groucho Marx has his tongue firmly in his cheek: "I find television very educating. Every time somebody turns on the set, I go into the other room and read a book." In sharp contrast there are quite a few among us who think that life will be boring without television. It can enable old people to joyfully pass their time watching the programme they like. Indeed, there are families which have separate TV set for each elderly member.

Why can't they talk instead about their life-long experiences? Why can't they take up any other pastime like playing cards? The question, they say, is irrelevant in this instance. Is television more interesting than the people? TV informs if we care to watch the news channels. It keeps us up-to-date with the latest developments across the globe. Sheer repetition and multiplication of the same event does strain our nerves but that is a different story. In addition, we have TV spreading spiritual aroma and education even while being swayed by movies and stars --- perhaps much more than by any other segment of the population. The moral of the tale is that it is for us to gainfully use the media. We should not only spend less time on the TV gazing but also divide it with care to watch as many programmes as possible instead of being swayed by their just one variety. 

Adolescent sleep disorder

Dr. Vivek Sharma

Sleep is when all the unsorted stuff comes flying out as from a dustbin upset in a high wind.
William Golding : Rincher Martin (1996)
Although the functions of sleep remain unknown. It is clear that the organ responsible for generating sleep and the only organ served by sleep is brain.
Adolescents need 9 hours of sleep. They rarely get that much due to early start school time, inability to fall asleep until late at night, work, social life and homework. Parents may need to adjust their Childs' schedule to allow more sleep. Ultimately they should go to bed and wake up at the same time. This is considered "good sleep hygiene."
Alterations in sleeping and waking patterns affect as many as 70% of all adolescents. These changes can be based on physiological processes. Changing academic demands, expanding social opportunities and altered parent-child relationships - when these problems go unrecognized or untreated, the personal and social consequences can be catastrophic.
Sleep disorders in adolescent
"Delayed sleep phase syndrome - Delayed sleep phase syndrome is common (17% prevalence). These teens often describe feeling wide-awake in the late evening hrs, with a delay in sleep onset until 3 or 4 AM. When they manage to drag themselves to school, their performance is impaired and they may fall asleep in morning classes.
* Pschophysiologic Insomnia - (difficulty initiating or maintaining sleep) In this problem adolescent develops conditioned anxiety around difficulty falling or staying asleep, which leads to frightened arousal and further compromises the ability to sleep.
* Narcolepsy : Features of narcolepsy is repetitive episodes of profound sleepiness that may occur both at rest and during periods of activity (bathing, eating etc.) These "sleep attacks" may be very brief (micro sleep) resulting primarily in lapses in attention and in mood disturbances.
* Restless leg syndrome (RLS) - often described as uncomfortable "creeping" or "crawling" sensation occurring prevailing in the lower limbs and periods of rest or inactivity (e.g. sleep onset), which is relieved by movement. Approximate 80% of patients with RLS also have repetitive rhythmic kicking movement of the lower extremities during sleep called periodic limb movements. The sleeper is usually unaware of the leg movement and of the resulting sleep fragmentation. This may result in significant daytime sleepiness, including inattention and hyperactivity.
Tips for good sleep hygiene in adolescents
* Wake up and go to bed at about the same time every night. Bedtime and wake up time should not differ from school to non-school nights by more than approximately an hour.
* Avoid bright light in the evening, but open blinds or turn on lights as soon as the morning alarm goes off to aid awakening.
* Avoid sleeping in on weekends to "catch-up" on sleep. This makes it more likely that you will have problems falling asleep.
* Don't use sleeping pills to help you sleep unless specifically recommended by the doctor. These can be dangerous and the sleep problems often return when you stop the medicine.
* Exercise regularly. Exercise may help you fall asleep and sleep more deeply.
* Stay away from caffeine, nicotine, cola and chocolates which all stimulates after the noon. Also avoid alcohol, which can disrupt sleep.
* If you take naps, they should not be more than an hour and scheduled in the early to mid afternoon.
* Spend time outside every day. Exposure to sunlight helps to keep your body's internal clock on track.
* Eat regular meals and don't go to bed hungry. A light snack before bed is good idea, eating a full meal in the hour before bed is not.
* Use your bed for sleeping only. Don't study read, listen to music, watch TV etc., on your bed.
* Don't study, watch exciting matches / movies, exercise, or get involved in "energizing" activities just before bed.
* Avoid arguing with friends and peers just before going to bed.
"Make the 30-60 minutes before bed time a quiet or wind down time. Relaxed, calm, enjoyable activities such as reading a book or listening to calm music help your body and mind slow down enough to let you get to sleep.


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